Welcoming a New
Brother or Sister through Adoption:
From Navigating New Relationships to Loving Families



Arleta James


Jessica Kingsley Publishing





Resources: General Adoption Information


Barret, Robert & Bryan Robinson. Gay Fathers: Encouraging the Hearts of Gay Dads and Their Families. (Hoboken: Jossey-Bass, 2000.)

Clunis, D. Merilee & G. Dorsey Green. The Lesbian Parenting Book: A Guide to Creating Families and Raising Children. (Seattle: Seal Press, 1995.)

Cogen, Patty. Parenting your Internationally Adopted Child: From your First Hours Together through the Teen Years.  (Boston: Harvard Common Press, 2008.)

Davenport, Dawn. The Complete Book of International Adoption: A Step by Step Guide to Finding Your Child. (New York: Broadway, 2006.)

Eldridge, Sherrie. Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1999.)

Eldridge, Sherrie. Twenty Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed. (Delta, 2009.)

Eldridge, Sherrie. Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make. (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2003.)

Foli, Karen and John R. Thompson. The Post-Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforseen Challenges of Adoption.  (Emmaus, PA: Rodale Books, 2004.)

Gray, Deborah D. Attaching in Adoption. (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, Inc., 2002.)

Hopkins-Best, Mary. Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft. (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, 1998.)

Hughes, Daniel A. Facilitating Developmental Attachment. (Dunmore, Pennsylvania: Jason Aronson/Inghram Book Company, 2000.)

James, Arleta. Brothers and Sisters in Adoption: Helping Children Navigate Relationships when New Kids Join the Family. (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, Inc. 2009.)

Johnston, Patricia Irwin. Adopting: Sound Choices, Strong Families.  (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, 2008.)

Keck, Gregory C. & Regina M. Kupecky. Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kids: A Guide for Parents and Professionals. (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 1995.)

Keck, Gregory C. & Regina M. Kupecky. Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow. (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2009.)

Register, Cheri. Beyond Good Intentions: A Mother Reflects on Raising Internationally Adopted Children. (St. Paul, MN: Yeong and Yeong Book Co., 2005.)

Varon, Lee. Adopting on Your Own: The Complete Guide to Adopting as a Single Parent. (New York: Farrer, Straus & Giroux, 2000.)



This is an extremely comprehensive website covering all aspects of adoption. You will find travel tips, advice about interacting with your newly adopted child, caring for yourself and other children throughout the process and more. The content is a balanced mix of stories from adoptive parents and material provided from professional sources. There are ample venues to connect with other adoptive families. Check out their CDs of adoption songs—they are just wonderful!

Adoption Learning Partners

Adoption Learning Partners, founded by The Cradle, seeks to improve adoption outcomes for all members of the adoption circle by providing a vibrant, innovative, educational resource on the Internet. Adoption Learning Partners offers highly valuable, timely, web-based educational resources for adoptive parents, adopted individuals, birthparents and the families that love them.


Adopt Us Kids provides a national photo listing service of available children throughout the United States. The website offers an overview of “getting started” with the adoption of children from the foster care system. Parents can request to be contacted regarding questions about foster care or the adoption process. The site also hosts a prospective parent blog. Adopt Us Kids is a valuable resource for professionals as well. Training and technical assistance are available in the areas of recruitment, retention and placement practices.

Association for Treatment & Training in the Attachment of Children (ATTACh)

ATTACh is an international coalition of professionals and families dedicated to helping those with attachment difficulties by sharing their knowledge, talents and resourc

The ATTACh vision is to be an international leader in creating public awareness and education regarding attachment and the critical role it plays in human development. They provide a quarterly newsletter, an annual conference, membership directory, and other benefits to members and the public. CDs of workshops from their annual conferences are available. The topics cover all aspects of the attachment between child and parent as well as various aspects of adoptive family life.

Child Trauma Academy (CTA)

CTA recognizes the crucial importance of childhood experiences in shaping the health of the individual and, ultimately, society. A major activity of the CTA is to translate emerging findings about the human brain and child development into practical implications for the ways we nurture, protect, enrich, educate and heal children. This site contains many valuable articles related to attachment, trauma, and grief and loss. There are also free online courses pertaining to attachment, brain development and the impact of trauma on children development.

Children’s Research Triangle

The Children’s Research Triangle works extensively with children who are adopted or in the foster care system and who have experienced abuse, neglect, and prenatal alcohol and drug exposure. Prenatal or postnatal counseling is available for families considering a domestic or international adoption of a high risk child, especially children prenatally exposed to alcohol, cocaine, methamphetamines or other drugs.

Child Welfare Information Gateway

The Child Welfare Information Gateway is a comprehensive resource on all aspects of adoption and is a service of the Children’s Bureau; Administration for Children and Families; and the Department of Health and Human Services. Services include technical assistance to professionals and policy makers, a library collection, publications, searchable databases on adoption resources, and information on federal and state legislation. This website is packed with articles on all aspects of adoption and trauma. Parents and professionals will find this organization of utmost assistance pre- and post-adoption.

Joint Council on International Children’s Services

The Joint Council on International Children’s Services (JCICS) is the lead voice on intercountry children’s services. Its mission is to advocate on behalf of children in need of permanent, safe and loving families. Joint Council promotes ethical child welfare practices, strengthens professional standards and educates adoptive families, social service professionals and government representatives throughout the world. This website contains a parent section which provides useful information to guide families through the international adoption process. Joint Council also puts forth country specific information for over 50 countries. The website includes information about the JCICS annual conference.

National Child Traumatic Stress Network

NCTSN is a unique collaboration of academic and community-based service centers whose mission is to raise the standard of care, and increase access to services for traumatized children and their families across the United States. Combining knowledge of child development, expertise in the full range of child traumatic experiences and attention to cultural perspectives, the NCTSN serves as a national resource for developing and disseminating evidence-based interventions, trauma-informed services, and public and professional education. This website is a must read for parents and professionals. It covers the impact of all types of trauma on the child’s development. There are articles and videos viewable online. This website is the home of information related to the complex trauma described in this chapter.

North American Council on Adoptable Children (NACAC)

NACAC promotes and supports permanent families for children and youth in the U.S. and Canada who have been in care—especially those in foster care and those with special needs. NACAC offers a quarterly newsletter—Adoptalk— replete with cutting edge articles pertaining to all aspects of adoption. Their annual conference is always exciting and informative. Child care is available at this parent-friendly conference. Tapes of conference workshop sessions may be purchased at—www.adoptiontapes.com. The NACAC website contains articles covering all facets of transcultural adoption. Subsidy information and a nationwide listing of adoptive parent support groups can also be found at NACAC.

Pact—An Adoption Alliance

Pact is a non-profit organization with a primary mission to serve children of color in need of adoption or who are growing up in adoptive families. In every case, the child is their primary client. They believe that to serve the child we must support and serve his or her adoptive parents by offering the very best resources to help them cope with a world whose attitudes too often reflect “adoptism” and racism. If you are looking for information related to any transcultural adoption issue, you are sure to find it on the Pact website! Pact makes available Below the Surface, a self-assessment guide for parents considering transcultural or transracial adoptions.

Perspectives Press

Perspectives Press has specialized in publishing books about adoption and infertility for 25 years. The website provides an overview of each of the books available. Purchases can be made directly through the website. Perspectives Press also features an array of articles written by its authors as well as the authors’ speaking schedules.

Post-Adoption Learning Center (PAL Center, Inc.)
This online school offers courses, CDs, publications, presentations, workshops and group consultations that help to raise awareness and prepare parents and professionals for addressing language, developmental and educational needs of internationally adopted older children. All information comes from professionals, who work with internationally adopted children on a daily basis. This website is also the home to the International Adoption Article Directory— www.adoptionarticlesdirectory.com. Adoptive parents will find over 500 articles on all aspects of international adoption. A number of these articles are devoted to the academic needs of intercountry adoptees.


Roger Morgan, Children's Rights Director, London, England and his team carefully listen to what young people tell them about the way they are being looked after, and the services they receive while in out-of-home care. Some really important messages have been passed on and have helped to make a difference. This site is home to the report, About Adoption, used to create the Adoptee Talk boxes in this chapter. However, other reports of interest include Children on Bullying, Children on Care Standards, Care Matters, Children and Safeguarding, Rights and Responsibilities and Views on Standards.

The Sibling Support Project

The Sibling Support Project is a national effort dedicated to the life-long concerns of brothers and sisters of people who have special health, developmental, or mental health concerns. The Sibling Support Project believes that disabilities, illness, and mental health issues affect the lives of all family members. Consequently, they work to increase the peer support and information opportunities for brothers and sisters of people with special needs and to increase parents’ and providers’ understanding of sibling issues. Their list serves connect siblings of all ages.

U.S. Department of Labor

Families may find information regarding the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) at the Department of Labor website. Under FMLA, covered employers must grant eligible employees up to a total of 12 work weeks of unpaid leave during any 12-month period for one or more of the following reasons: birth and care of a newborn child; placement of a son or daughter through adoption or foster care; to care for an immediate family member (spouse, child or parent) with a serious condition.

U.S. Department of State

Utilize this website to keep track of potential travel hazards. Travel Warnings are issued to describe long-term conditions that make a country dangerous or unstable, or when the U.S. Government’s ability to assist American citizens is constrained due to the closure of an embassy or consulate.


Adoption Today Magazine

This is the only magazine dedicated to international and transracial adoption.        

Adoptive Families Magazine

Adoptive Families magazine is a national award winning adoption magazine providing information for families before, during and after adoption. The Adoptive Families website offers a wealth of adoption related articles!

Fostering Families Today Magazine

This magazine is packed with honest and poignant articles related to foster care and adoption. This magazine is a must read for anyone involved with children from the child welfare system.


Arleta James, M.S., P.C.C.

Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio
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