adoptive parents

 

 

 

 

Adjusting Expectations Pre- and Post-Adoption

The Development of Realistic Expectations Pre-Adoption: Myth or Actuality?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/20/the-development-of-realistic-expectations-pre-adoption-myth-or-actuality/

 

A Pre-Adoptive Expectation: “My Spouse or Partner want to Adopt”

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/22/a-pre-adoptive-expectation-my-spouse-or-partner-wants-to-adopt/

 

Maybe When I’m 25 I’ll be Grateful!

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/21/maybe-when-im-25-ill-be-grateful/

 

A Pre-Adoptive Expectation: “I Don’t want to Deal with Birthparents”

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/02/03/a-pre-adoptive-expectation-i-dont-want-to-deal-with-birth-parents/

Attachment

The “Eyes” Have It

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/13/the-eyes-have-it/

 

50 Wonderful Songs about Love, Family and Adoption

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/12/07/50-wonderful-songs-about-love-family-and-adoption/

 

Theraplay: Enhancing Attachment, Building Trust, Having Fun

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/29/theraplay-enhancing-attachment-building-trust-having-fun/

 

“We are Family”: The Importance of Claiming to Enhance Attachment in Adoptive Families

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/17/we-are-family-the-importance-of-claiming-to-enhance-attachment-in-adoptive-families/

Ensuring the Attachment of Newly Arrived Infants – Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/01/ensuring-the-attachment-of-newly-arrived-infants-part-one/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/06/ensuring-the-attachment-of-newly-arrived-infants-part-two/
Psychological “Fit”: A Place Where Parents, Brothers, Sisters and the Adoptee must come Together
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/26/psychological-fit-a-place-where-parents-brothers-sisters-and-the-adoptee-must-come-together/

“You are the Mom”: Helping Your Child Join Your Family
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/03/you-are-the-mom-helping-your-child-join-your-family/

To Laugh or Not to Laugh: Humor and Adoptive Families
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/01/14/to-laugh-or-not-to-laugh-humor-and-adoptive-families/

 

Nurture: The Ring that Holds the Keys – Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/30/nurture-the-ring-that-holds-all-the-keys-part-1-of-2/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/12/03/nurture-the-ring-that-holds-all-the-keys-part-2-of-2/

Nurture and the Sexually Abused or Aggressive Adoptee

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/07/nurture-and-the-sexually-abused-or-aggressive-adoptee/

A Bit About the Brain

The Brain on Trauma

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/01/20/the-brain-on-trauma/

 

Neurofeedback: Training the Brain
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/11/neurofeedback-training-the-brain/

Implicit Memories: The Roots of Today’s Behavioral Challenges – Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/28/implicit-memories-the-roots-of-todays-behavioral-challenges-part-one/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/30/implicit-memories-the-roots-of-todays-behavioral-challenges-part-two/

 

Consequences vs. Reactions: Parent “Deerly”

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/10/consequences-vs-reactions-parent-deerly/

 

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: Thinking About the Adoptee’s Trauma

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/26/posttraumatic-stress-disorder-thinking-about-the-adoptees-trauma/

Adoption Resources

Listening Your Way to Healing

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/19/listening-your-way-to-healing/

 

A Safe Place for Caleb: A Wonderful Resource for Healing Traumatized Adoptees

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/02/22/a-safe-place-for-caleb-a-wonderful-resource-for-healing-traumatized-adoptees/

 

Bi-Polar Disorder: Ten+ Resources

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/05/bi-polar-disorder-ten-resources/

 

A Baker’s Dozen of Articles: Caring for the Adoptee

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/29/a-bakers-dozen-of-articles-caring-for-the-adoptee/

 

Caring for the Typical Children: A Baker’s Dozen +

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/08/caring-for-the-typical-children-a-bakers-dozen/

 

Summer Reading for the Adoptee: Two A+ Resources
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/02/summer-reading-for-the-adoptee-two-a-resources/

Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder: An Explosion of Information
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/07/fetal-alcohol-spectrum-disorder-an-explosion-of-information/

Books, Movies and Websites for Typical and Adopted Children

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/27/books-movies-and-websites-for-typical-and-adopted-children/

Managing Behavioral Difficulties

Another Crazy Whopper!: Understanding and Dealing with Lying – Parts One & Two

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/26/another-crazy-whopper-understanding-and-dealing-with-lying-part-one/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/27/another-crazy-whopper-understanding-and-dealing-with-lying-part-two/

 

Throw Away the Stickers! A Perspective on Reward Systems

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/27/throw-away-the-stickers-a-perspective-on-reward-systems/

 

“Stinky Business”: Pee and Poop Issues in Adoptive Families – Part One & Part Two

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/11/stinky-business-pee-and-poop-issues-in-adoptive-families-part-one/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/12/stinky-business-pee-and-poop-issues-in-adoptive-families-part-two/

 

As Mother’s Day Approaches: The Role of Triggers in Adoptive Families

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/29/as-mothers-day-approaches-the-role-of-triggers-in-adoptive-families/

 

Affection is Wonderful: Will the Behaviors Ever Stop?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/22/affection-is-wonderful-will-the-behaviors-ever-stop/

 

The Art of Praising Your Adopted Son or Daughter
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/07/01/the-art-of-praising-your-adopted-son-or-daughter/

Ask Not “Why?”, But “What?”

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/07/07/ask-not-why-but-what/

 

Seeing the Forest Through the Trees: What to Pick?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/24/seeing-the-forest-through-the-trees-what-to-pick/

 

Take a Time Out from Time Out: Connecting with Your Son or Daughter

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/28/take-a-time-out-from-time-out-connecting-with-your-adopted-son-or-daughter/

 

One to Five: A Continuum of Healing the Adoptee
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/22/one-to-five-a-continuum-of-healing-the-adoptee/

 

Anything We Can’t Find, He Stole! Parts One, Two, Three & Four

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/16/anything-we-cant-find-he-stole-the-why-and-what-to-do-about-stealing-part-1-of-4/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/18/anything-we-cant-find-he-stole-the-why-and-what-to-do-about-stealing-part-2-of-4/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/23/anything-we-cant-find-he-stole-the-why-and-what-to-do-about-stealing-part-3-of-4/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/25/anything-we-cant-find-he-stole-the-why-and-what-to-do-about-stealing-part-4-of-4/

 

 

Shhh!: “Quiet” Parenting Zone Ahead

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/09/shhhh-quiet-parenting-zone-ahead/

 

Getting Started with Quiet Parenting

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/21/getting-started-with-quiet-parenting/

Oh, the Behaviors!” Developing Value Competency – Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/02/11/oh-the-behaviors-developing-value-competency-part-one/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/02/15/oh-the-behaviors-developing-value-competency-part-two/

 

Getting Full On Parents, Instead Of Food

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/01/getting-full-on-parents-instead-of-food/

                                                   

Parenting and Healing the Aggressive Adopted Child

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/08/05/parenting-and-healing-aggressive-adopted-children/

Moving Children with Sensitivity

“Their Past:” Photos, Video, Audiotape and More…

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/11/their-past-photos-video-audiotape-and-more/

 

Sensitively Moving the Older International Adoptee

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/20/sensitively-moving-the-older-international-adoptee/

 

Moving: Through the Eyes of the Child

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/03/moving-through-the-eyes-of-the-child/

Talking to Kids About Adoption

Talking with Children about Their Orphanage Background: A Guide to Using “Borya and the Burps” – Parts One & Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/21/talking-with-children-about-their-orphanage-background-a-guide-to-using-borya-and-the-burps-part-1/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/23/talking-with-children-about-their-orphanage-background-a-guide-to-using-borya-and-the-burps-part-2/

Adoption and School Issues

Time, Energy and Priorities: Homework or Monopoly?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/05/time-energy-and-priorities-homework-or-monopoly/

 

Public School, Homeschool…How Should My Adopted Child be Educated?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/07/29/public-school-homeschool-how-should-my-adopted-child-be-educated/
School and Adoption—Answering Adoption-Related Questions: Adoptees, and Brothers and Sisters Need Responses!
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/09/08/school-and-adoption%e2%80%94answering-adoption-related-questions-adoptees-and-brothers-and-sisters-need-responses/

 

Adoption-Competent Mental Health Services

What is All this Alphabet Soup: Understanding Children’s Mental Health Diagnoses

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/13/what-is-all-this-alphabet-soup-understanding-children%e2%80%99s-mental-health-diagnoses/

 

Parents Belong in Their Children’s Therapy

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/01/18/parents-belong-in-their-childrens-therapy/

 

The Plant: A Perspective for Professionals

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/02/25/the-plant-a-perspective-for-professionals/

Issues for Adoption Professionals

Single Parent Adopters: Wonderful Families for Kids

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/27/single-parent-adopters-wonderful-families-for-kids/

 

While Families Wait: Ongoing Adoption Education for Prospective Adoptive Families

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/20/while-families-wait-ongoing-preparation-for-prospective-adoptive-families/

 

Adoptive Family Home Studies: What’s in a Question?         
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/22/adoptive-family-home-studies-whats-in-a-question/

Parental Self-Care/Parent Issues

“You are a Good Parent”:  Areas of Mastery Must be Recognized and Enhanced
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/03/you-are-a-good-parent-areas-of-mastery-must-be-recognized-and-enhanced/

Why Won’t You Believe Me?: Splitting in the Adoptive Home
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/01/why-wont-you-believe-me-splitting-in-the-adoptive-home/

Will I Love My Adopted Child as Much as My Birth Child?
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/11/will-i-love-my-adopted-child-as-much-as-my-birth-child/

Adoption + Mental Health Issues = Invisible – Parts One, Two & Three
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/10/adoption-mental-health-issues-invisible-part-1/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/11/adoption-mental-health-issues-invisible-part-2/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/18/adoption-mental-health-issues-invisible-part-3/

“Am I the ‘Right’ Mom for This Child?” Part One & Part Two

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/30/am-i-the-right-mom-for-this-child-part-one/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/01/am-i-the-right-mom-for-this-child-part-two/

Adopting a Child with a History of Trauma: Impact on Parents’ Self-Image
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/31/adopting-a-child-with-a-history-of-trauma-impact-on-parents-self-image/

Time, Energy and Priorities: Sleep On It!

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/17/time-energy-and-priorities-sleep-on-it/

 

Ending the Cycle of Blaming Adoptive Parents: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/15/ending-the-cycle-of-blaming-adoptive-parents-the-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace-study/

 

The Parallel Healing Process: Preventing “Button Pushing”, Promoting Peace

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/07/14/the-parallel-healing-process-preventing-button-pushing-promoting-peace/

“I Am a Terrible Parent!”: Not! Absolutely, Not! Parenting the Traumatized Adoptee

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/09/29/i-am-a-terrible-parent-not-absolutely-not-parenting-the-traumatized-adoptee/

Caring for the Typical “Normal” Kids

Where are the Support Groups for Typically-Developing Children?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/14/where-are-the-support-groups-for-typically-developing-children/
 
This is Not the Brother or Sister I Expected: The Need to Prepare the Typical Children

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/15/this-is-not-the-brother-or-sister-i-expected-the-need-to-prepare-the-typical-children/

 

 “Yes” There are Positives for the Typical Kids!

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/01/11/yes-there-are-positives-for-the-typical-kids/

 

Time, Energy and Priorities: One Habit You’ll Want to Keep

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/29/time-energy-and-priorities-one-habit-youll-want-to-keep/

 

A Sibling Thanksgiving: One Mom’s Tradition

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/09/a-sibling-thanksgiving-one-moms-tradition/

 

“Family Talks” about the Brother or Sister Joining the Family

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/21/family-talks-about-the-brother-or-sister-joining-the-family/

Typical Children: Afloat on a Sea of Grief

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/07/typical-children-afloat-on-a-sea-of-grief/

 

Sibling Rivalry in Adoptive Families – Part One, Part Two & Part Three
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/13/sibling-rivalry-in-adoptive-families-part-1/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/14/sibling-rivalry-in-adoptive-families-part-2/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/20/sibling-rivalry-in-adoptive-families-part-3/

 

“Help Me Cope!”: Caring for the Typical Kids in Adoptive Families – Part One & Part Two

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/18/help-me-cope-caring-for-the-typical-kids-in-adoptive-families-part-one/

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/19/help-me-cope-caring-for-the-typical-kids-in-adoptive-families-part-two/

Adolescent Adoptees

Teen Sexuality within a History of Sexual Abuse

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/10/07/teen-sexuality-within-a-history-of-sexual-abuse/

 

Disruption and Dissolution of Adoptions

A Summary of a Study of Eastern European Adoption Dissolutions
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/09/a-summary-of-a-study-of-eastern-european-adoption-dissolutions/

The Adoptee Leaves the Family: Helping the Brothers and Sisters Who Remain in the Home – Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/12/the-adoptee-leaves-the-family-helping-the-brothers-and-sisters-who-remain-in-the-home-part-one/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/15/the-adoptee-leaves-the-family-helping-the-brothers-and-sisters-who-remain-in-the-home-part-two/

Enhancing Fun and Play in Adoptive Families

Having Fun In Adoptive Families: Not and Oxymoron!

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/03/29/having-fun-in-adoptive-families-not-an-oxymoron/

 

5 Tips to Help Adoptive Families Have Fun This Summer

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/05/06/5-tips-to-help-adoptive-families-have-fun-this-summer/

Does Your Child Really Play?: Finding Your Traumatized Adoptee’s Playful Side! Part One and Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/10/13/does-your-child-really-play-finding-your-traumatized-adoptees-playful-side-part-one/

 

Fathers and Adoption

As Father’s Day Approaches: Strengthening the Role Of Adoptive Dads – Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/03/as-fathers-day-approaches-strengthening-the-role-of-adoptive-dads-part-one/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/08/as-fathers-day-approaches-strengthening-the-role-of-adoptive-dads-part-two/

AdoptiveDads.org: A Resource Site for Fathers in Adoption and Foster Care

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/04/02/a-resource-site-for-fathers-in-adoption-and-foster-care/

 

Adoptive Dads, Timing and the Adoptee Affected by Trauma

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/01/27/adoptive-dads-timing-and-the-adoptee-affected-by-trauma/

 

A Blueprint to Relationships: Building Your Role as Dad  - Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/14/a-blueprint-to-relationships-building-your-role-as-dad-part-one/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/17/a-blueprint-to-relationships-building-your-role-as-dad-part-two/

 

Grief and Loss Issues

“Let’s Make a Deal: Bargaining as an Expression of Grief

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/01/25/lets-make-a-deal-bargaining-as-an-expression-of-grief/

 

Trauma and The Impact of Trauma on Child Development

“Act Your Age:” The Vineland Adaptive Behavioral Scales

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/24/act-your-age-the-vineland-adaptive-behavioral-scales/

 

“Sorry:” Building Your Adoptee’s Moral Development

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/06/sorry-building-your-adoptees-moral-development/

Time, Energy and Priorities: What’s for Dinner?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/04/time-energy-and-priorities-whats-for-dinner/

Speech and Language Development in Adoptees
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/02/09/speech-and-language-development-and-adoptees/

I’d Like to Trust You, But Can I?

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/15/id-like-to-trust-you-but-can-i/

Neglect: There is No Such Thing as “a Little”

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/17/neglect-there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-little/

“He or She is So Smart”: The Many Facets of Intellectual Development
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/06/24/he-or-she-is-so-smart-the-many-facets-of-intellectual-development/

“I’m Not Lazy:” The Development of Initiative in Traumatized Adoptees – Part One & Part Two
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/23/%e2%80%9ci%e2%80%99m-not-lazy%e2%80%9d-the-development-of-initiative-in-traumatized-adoptees-part-one/
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/03/25/%e2%80%9ci%e2%80%99m-not-lazy%e2%80%9d-the-development-of-initiative-in-traumatized-adoptees-part-two/

How Full is Your Bucket? Reciprocity and the Traumatized Adoptee
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/09/16/how-full-is-your-bucket-reciprocity-and-the-traumatized-adoptee/

Transcultural and Transracial Adoption Issues

Transcultural and Transracial Adoptees: The Development of Racial and Cultural Identity
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/07/16/transcultural-and-transracial-adoptees-the-development-of-racial-and-cultural-identity/

Transcultural Adoptees: The Development of Cultural Awareness
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/01/transcultural-adoptees-the-development-of-cultural-awareness/

Inside Transracial Adoption: White Siblings in Transracial Families
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/10/inside-transracial-adoption-white-siblings-in-transracial-families/

Pact, An Adoption Alliance: An A+ Source of Information about Transcultural and Transracial Adoption
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/02/17/pact-an-adoption-alliance-an-a-source-of-information-about-transcultural-and-transracial-adoption/

The Voices of Adult Transcultural Adoptees: Listening to the Messages and Taking Action

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/07/21/the-voices-of-adult-transcultural-adoptees-listening-to-the-messages-and-taking-action/

Pre-Adoption Issues

 Finding a Pediatrician for Your Adopted Child
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/06/25/finding-a-pediatrician-for-your-adopted-child/

While Families Wait: Ongoing Adoption Education for Prospective Adoptive Families

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/20/while-families-wait-ongoing-preparation-for-prospective-adoptive-families/

 Finances and Financing An Adoption: Important Considerations and Resources
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/14/finances-and-financing-an-adoption-important-considerations-and-resources/

Deliberate Toddler Adoption
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/09/07/deliberate-toddler-adoption/

Promoting Sexual Safety in Adoptive Families

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/06/promoting-sexual-safety-in-adoptive-families/

Are We Making Progress With Our Adopted Child?

Progress and Dieting: The Two have Much in Common

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/04/27/progress-and-dieting-the-two-have-much-in-common/

Progress: Look Back Rather than Ahead
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/05/18/progress-look-back-rather-than-ahead/

General Adoption Issues

2009 Best Adoption-Friendly Workplaces

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/08/03/2009-best-adoption-friendly-workplaces/

 

The American Orphan

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/05/the-american-orphan/

It’s Time!: National Adoption Awareness Month 2009

http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2009/11/02/its-time-national-adoption-awareness-month/

Adopting Sibling Groups
Adopting Sibling Groups: Is the Youngest of the Group the Healthiest?
http://perspectivespress.com/blog/2010/10/06/adopting-sibling-groups-is-the-youngest-of-the-group-the-healthiest/

 

 

 

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